Thursday, April 25, 2013

An Ugly Scene

From Paul:

On April 17, at about 8:30 p.m., I entered the Potomac Ave. Metro stop.  As I walked down the escalator to the platform, I heard the scream of a little girl.  I quickly walked past a dozen or so passengers waiting for their train, seemingly oblivious to the death cry from this young girl.

About halfway down the platform, I saw a woman with two young children -- maybe 7 and 4 years old -- sitting on a concrete bench.  With an open hand and her forearm, she attacked the older child over her face and head, again and again.  The girl screamed and tears streamed down her face.

I ran over to the woman.  "Stop," I yelled.  "You're beating your child!"

The woman stopped and looked up at me.  "This is none of your business," she huffed, pushing her child away from her.

"Yes it is my business.  You cannot hit your child."

"Well," she said, "I am teaching her a lesson."

"I don't care," I told her.  "It's one thing to spank her on the butt, but this is different.  This is abuse."

"I can deal with my child however I want."

"No you can't," I told her, my voice straining.  "It is illegal to hit your child."

"No it's not," she responded.

I turned away from the woman and ran down the platform, past the dozen obvious people, up the escalator, and to the manager's station.  I knocked on the window and went around to the door.  The station manager opened it.

"This woman down there is beating her child," I told him, nearly out of breath.

"I thought I heard a girl screaming," he said.

The manger walked out of his booth and I followed him as he walked down the escalator and towards the woman.  At that point, a train heading into town pulled up and the doors opened.

"That's her," I told the manager, pointing to the woman with the two children.  "She's getting on the train."

We jogged to the door, where we were joined by another Metro employee.  She asked what was going on and I quickly explained the situation.  The manager signaled to the train driver to stop, but either the driver did not see the signal or he did not care, because the doors began to close.

I quickly stepped onto the train, along with the other Metro employee.  She punched the emergency call button near us and spoke into the radio -- I don't know what she said, but shortly after, the train departed towards Capitol South.

Looking at the woman with her two children, I explained in further detail about what I had seen.  I pleaded with her to alert Metro police so they could arrest this woman at the next stop, but she said there was nothing she could do.  She opened her phone and tried to make a call, but apparently there was no service because she put the phone back into her pocket.

At that point, the woman with the two children began defending herself, claiming the same excuses as before -- she was teaching her child a lesson, this was none of my business, etc.  While she spoke, I looked at the two little girls and apologized for what they were going through.  They looked helpless and afraid.  Bruises spotted the older girl's face and dried tears lined her cheeks.  If this woman would attack her child in public, I could not imagine what she would do in the privacy of their home.

As the train approached Eastern Market, the woman stood up and walked towards the door with her children in tow.

"She's going to get off at this stop," I told the Metro employee.

"Because this is my stop," the woman said, her voice cold and defensive.

When the train stopped and the doors opened, she ran out of the train and into a train that had stopped in the opposite direction.  Both the Metro and employee and I followed her out of the train.

"Please stop that train," I pleaded, pointing at the woman.  "She's going to get away."

The Metro employee repeated that there was nothing she could do.

"I'm not able to stop service," she said.

I ran towards the door and for a split second considered following the woman.  It was no use, though -- I did not have the power to arrest her myself and I don't get phone service on the train.  My best bet, I figured, was to follow the Metro employee to the manager's station and report what I had seen.  Perhaps they could arrest her at another stop.

I watched as the doors shut and the train pulled away.  Then I turned and followed the Metro employee up the escalator and to the manager's station.  She took my name and number, and then picked up the phone and reported what had happened.  To her credit, she described the woman and her two children in much greater detail than I could have.  She spoke with emotion in her voice, explaining that the older girl had bruises all over her face.

I waited at the manager's station for about thirty minutes, talking with the Metro employee and three different plain clothed Metro agents.  All of them were angered by what I told them and insisted that she would be apprehended.  Eventually, the Metro employee opened the manager's door and told me that the woman had been "cleared."

"What do you mean?" I asked.

"They stopped the train at Benning Road and found her, but the agent let her go.  He said he didn't see any signs of abuse."

I could not believe it.  "So that's it?"

"Yeah," she said, nodding her head.

The three plain clothed agents shook their heads, clearly irritated, but seemingly powerless to do anything.

"Can't you pull up the video from Potomac Ave.?" I asked.  "There are cameras everywhere."

"We'll file a report, but right now, there's nothing more we can do," the employee told me again.

I left my card with her, walked down the escalator, and boarded the next train into town.  Later that night, when I returned to the Potomac Ave. Metro station, I asked the station manager if they were able to apprehend the woman.

"We've filed a report," the manager said.

"That's it?" I asked.

"That's all we can do," he said.

Once I got home, I called the DC child abuse hotline and reported what I had seen.  Apparently, the police will open an investigation.  It should not be hard to find this woman, though.  There is a camera directly above where she had been hitting her child.  I am willing and able to serve as a witness against her.

You can report child abuse or neglect 24 hours a day, seven days a week to 202-671-SAFE (7233). 

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Horrible, just horrible. Thank you for advocating so hard for those little girls. Thank you to the Metro employees who took it seriously and tried to do the right thing, I'm just sorry that in the end, the wrong action was taken and they let her go. How terrible.

It did give me pause that a station manager would hear a child screaming and not rush out to determine the cause. But at least they did the right thing when approached by the OP. And I really hope that MTPD will coordinate with the DCPD to provide the video footage of the incident. Maybe they even got her name when they stopped her at Benning Road.

Again, thank you for standing up for those kids. I wish more bystanders would intervene as you did.
3 replies · active 621 weeks ago
Unfortunately, due to the volume of cases and lack of social workers, case managers and other people there is very little chance that this case or other more extreme cases will be followed up on. As a teacher who has had to report cases to CPs (child protective services) on a regular basis, there is very little that is done because we don't have the funding to hire, train and retain enough quality social services people.
Nevertheless, both the child-smacker and the nosy white guy voted for Obama.
You were brave to get involved when so many a calloused. You can call 911 at any location and get the jurisdictional police involved. Do not wait on Transit Police. I was told this years ago.

I know of a lady who did this to her daughter's head and the young daughter now has seizures. These children do not deserve this. Abuse against a child, an employee or spousal abuse is illegal and it goes unreported so often.
The Healthy Workplace Act is going through the channels and I hope and pray that these protections are passed so that employees can be free from workplace psychological abuses.
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Sriracha · 622 weeks ago

People need a license to drive a car, but any idiot is allowed to breed. Figures.
2 replies · active 622 weeks ago
not in china
I have liberal friends who would love to have China's forced abortion policies here.
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Calabria · 622 weeks ago

Thank you for doing what so many others are afraid to do. And thank to you to the Metro employees who did what they could, too.

I keep the DC CFSA phone number in my telephone, in case I witness something like this in public, so that I can report child abuse. For those of you who don't know the number: 202-671-7233.
1 reply · active 622 weeks ago
Seriously, who is giving a thumbs down to these comments (and not just mine)? Did the mother in question find this post or something?
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Dave Alturd · 622 weeks ago

I'm glad you got involved like that. It's important for us to make sure we govern and teach responsibility to others. The antis are too stupid to think for themselves so we have to think for them.

It's important that we get involved when we are offended by anything. That way we can arrest those that do things we don't approve of!

The only thing I can't agree with is your letters tone in blaming Metro. Metro is never at fault because they are public transit and provide smart growth and ease of access to everyone, including yourself! Be grateful for what a good job the do!

If you are uncomfortable on the Metro, I suggest you buy a bike and join us on our many bikepaths in the nations capital.

Read my blog! : http://greatergreaterwashington.org/
8 replies · active 622 weeks ago
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Dave's Lover · 622 weeks ago

Thanks for making an irrelevant comment on a thread about horrific child abuse.

By the way, we're winning the war on cars.
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Dave Alturd · 622 weeks ago

I know we're winning the war on cars. Maybe if that woman was on a bike she wouldn't be confronted by the horrors of a woman beating her children.

Maybe if the mother who was beating her children was on a bike she wouldnt be beating her children. Studies show that bike riding weeds out aggression and anger while driving in a car makes you enraged.

In fact I'm pretty sure that the woman who was beating her children WAS in a car right before she got to Metro. This would explain her behavior of being a violent psychopath. Studies show that most car drivers are violent and deranged.

Don't worry too much, after the trip through the Metro system, the woman probably calmed down and became one with Mother Eart and nature and vowed to never hit her kids again. Studies show that Metro and public transporation and smarth growth makes everyone happy and less angry and less likely to violently attack someone.

Read my blog!: http://greatergreaterwashington.org
Dude what the hell are you talking about
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Not Helpful · 622 weeks ago

Hey Mr Unsuck:
How is it that these juvenile comments are being approved? They're fake and rude, and we all know it; it only damages the credibility of your site to allow them to post.
I firmly believe we all have the right to makes fools of ourselves in public.
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It'sObvious · 622 weeks ago

It's sarcasm
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No Kidding · 622 weeks ago

Yeah, sarcasm is really only useful as criticism when it is relevant and funny.

Attacking David Alpert on a thread about child abuse = not relevant and funny.
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hrh king friday 13 · 622 weeks ago

I think some people need a hotline for that too.
thanks for trying.... :(
Thank goodness so many people did the right thing. Too bad some didn't. The problem may be that the Metro employees who didn't take proper action sincerely thought they had no authority. But, in this situation, one grabs the authority. The train could (should) have been halted. Medical issues halt trains. And I am not trying to be "stupid" but Metro trains often halt themselves.

The glass is more than half full in this event.
Next time call the police.
1 reply · active 622 weeks ago
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UnSuck Fan · 622 weeks ago

Uh, I read twice that both the OP and the station manager could not get cell phone reception. When the OP got home, he contacted the police.
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Metro Ryder · 622 weeks ago

Maybe it's the Pollyanna in me, but I hope she was "cleared" so that Child Protective Services could do their thing and investigate.
Funny how they're stressing the "If you see something, say something" slogan every day, but actually doing so leads you pretty much nowhere. I understand that those employees couldn't do much since they're not Metro Transit Police, but they could have at least contacted them, if not the DC police
Maybe the kids deserved to be punished.
4 replies · active 622 weeks ago
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Daily Rider · 622 weeks ago

No kid ever deserves to be punished by being beaten about the head and shoulders.
Some kids just need beatin'
NO kid deserves to be hit!!!!!

Okay, that was how kids were de facto punnished decades ago. It has not been the case that it is the 'proper' way to raise children for a long time though!
Call the local news agencies! Force Metro to release the tape. Force their hand.

I concur that you should call DCFS.
A 4 year old girl on the red linesaid to me "Who you lookin' at UGLY?" Then an "adult" said "'lil girl you sitcho a$$ down or I'ma F you up."
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Dr Turdlock · 622 weeks ago

I hate to be a dick, but along the lines of Dan Stessell and one person's flirting is another person's harassment, one person's child abuse is another's proper discipline.
3 replies · active 615 weeks ago
I'm sorry, but in what world is apparently beating a child to the point of bruises "proper discipline"?
His line of reasoning is wrong, and so is yours. You are a worthless scumbag who should never be allowed to have children if you think this type of thing is ok.
Have to say, this is the only rational statement out of all under this thread. Look discipline is discipline, proper or not is a matter of personal opinion. Go ahead and stop this mother from teaching her child a lesson and be happy 20 years later when this child brings a gun to school on someone she hates. Seems like many other there just want these kids to be brought to the hands of strangers instead of their biological parents. Heaven to Hell, if you're not planning to raise the kid and be responsible for his adulthood later.....it's NONE of your business.
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Vienna Bound · 622 weeks ago

An MPD officer should be stationed at every metro station. Station managers don't have law enforcement authority. An MPD officer should be somewhat of a deterrent or at a minimum, a legal authority for riders to seek out.
I smell some level of exaggeration in this story . It's extremely one sided, and I'm not ready to scream "child abuse" because a child got open hand slapped.
The child uses a bad word to her mother, then covers up when the mother attempts to discipline her. Forgive me for saying this, but I need more information.
9 replies · active 621 weeks ago
There's nothing in the post about the girl "talking back" to her mother. You're completely fabricating that in an attempt to excuse child abuse.
doesn't mean it didn't happen though.
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TheBlueSweater · 621 weeks ago

Doesn't mean it did, either. Omission is not proof.
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VeteranRider · 622 weeks ago

"...Bruises spotted the older girl's face..."

That means this was not a casual spur of the moment event, that it had either been going on over some time, or was recent but intense enough to bruise instantly. Either way, how is that not enough information for you? What more do you want? That's plenty enough to bring a police officer or CPS in for some investigation, at least.

Attitude like yours is how little kids can be killed by their mothers and stuffed in freezers without anyone asking any questions. Shame.
A seven year old is being hit IN THE FACE. There is absolutely no circumstance in which an adult should hit an elementary school-aged child across the face. Do you really want to be around people who think that it is ok to respond to words (a child's theoretical rudeness, no less) with violence? Attitudes like yours are the reason this woman was so brazen in abusing her children.
'exaggeration'?

What more information do you need? How is it EVER justified?

Unless the child was capable of defending themselves the mother was abusing her physical superiority. Case closed. No right of appeal.
of course. heavens to betsy a parent can't discipline her own child without someone else telling her how to do it better.
Abusing a child knocking them in the head is not a good choice for discipline 'guest'.
Thank you Paul for taking a stand on this.
Unfortunately, reproaching a parent like this in public can be very counter-productive. Once the parent is out of sight of the accuser, he or she will likely turn their anger and embarrassment on the "source" of the problem: the child. Also, it is actually NOT illegal for a parent to hit their child in DC. Yes, abuse is against the law, but precisely when physical discipline crosses the line from permissible discipline to illegal abuse is a matter for the police and legal authorities to determine; you publicly accusing the mother of doing something illegal only serves to anger and embarrass her, which she will blame on the child. Next time, unobtrusively take a video or a photograph of what the parent is doing, showing her face, and then give the evidence to the police or children's protective services with a precise description of the parent. Tell them exactly where and when this happened, and they will hopefully find the parent again and be able to question her. Or you can follow her (again, unobtrusively) and call police to meet you.
1 reply · active 621 weeks ago
Also, if you criticize the parent you will probably be called a racist.

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